Be The Kind of Parent
YOU Want To Be
Trust
Create a relationship with your children based on trust, connection and collaboration
SAFETY
Provide a secure attachment for your children by understanding your own attachment style
healing
Heal the wounds you experienced as a child, so your children don’t have to
Parenting doesn’t need to feel like a constant struggle…
With some conscious effort, we can replace conflict with connection. The authoritarian style of parenting that most of us have experienced as children leads to broken relationships and a range of insecurities that may stay with us throughout our lifetimes.
When we parent our children without working through our own history, we are destined to repeat painful patterns we ourselves experienced as children, no matter how badly we want it to be different.
Things can be different
You can turn things around for you and your children. There is another way - one that builds on connection, compassion and communication. One that leads to secure attachment. One that
feels right.
Parenting is a learning process that starts with knowing ourselves. Be the kind of parent you want to be. Whatever stage you are at in your parenting, whatever the pressures involved in caring for your children, it is possible.
I'm Ruth, from Mothering Deep
When I found out I was pregnant, I knew I did not want to raise my daughter the way I had been raised. It was important to me that my child felt that she could always come to me no matter what. So I started learning about attachment, conscious parenting, emotional regulation and how to develop the tools I needed to build that trust-based relationship with my daughter.
Over the years, I have become passionate about child brain development, attachment theory and approaches to communication. I have a PhD in Communication, and I am a Jai Certified Parent Coach. Supporting families through their own processes has become a life mission for me.
Our children deserve to count on us as the best guides they can possibly have, and we, as adults and as parents, need to be in the best place possible to be able to offer this to them.
The way we were parented is deeply rooted in us: our identity, the way we understand the world around us, and the way we parent our own children. You may feel that you want to explore this and develop a deep meaningful relationship with your children. Let’s take those transformational steps together.
"I was overwhelmed. I needed support to understand my children. Ruth helped me adjust my expectations to what was realistic and age-appropriate. I have been able to work on the patterns I had learnt in my childhood. It is a difficult road to take, but it is so, so worth it. I can now understand and manage my own emotions better, so I can be available for my children. I am so grateful."
-Ainhoa B., mum of two children (aged 1 and 4)
"I needed someone to guide me through certain situations with my children. I did not want to replicate what my parents did when I was a child. Ruth showed me it is possible not to repeat the same behaviors. I am calmer now and I trust that we are doing things right, the way that feels right to us. Now we can set firm limits without applying punishments that don’t help anyone."
-Dani, Barcelona
The traditional authoritarian model of parenting doesn’t work
This doesn’t mean that the solution is permissive parenting. It absolutely isn’t. Authoritarian and permissive ways of parenting lead to a whole range of different issues. We don’t want to replace one with the other.
The real issue is that most of us have not been given the tools we need to be the parents we want to be. We are hard-wired to repeat the same patterns we learnt as children. However, it is possible to revert these. Let me guide you through the transformational steps to do this.
I understand how hard it is to ask for help as a parent. Which is why when you contact me, you will be met with compassion, understanding and non-judgemental openness. I will guide you through a supportive, personalized, effective plan, putting your values, principles and priorities right at the center.
Here's How It Works:
When you book a call with me, we’ll sit down together and talk so I can get a sense of what’s going on for you and your family and where I can offer support.
I’ll explain my approach and the options we have for working together. You can ask any questions you have and see what type of support would be the best fit for your life and schedule.
If it feels right to you, we can book our first session and get started. If it’s not a good fit, I will do my best to offer alternative resources or suggestions for support, wherever possible. There’s no pressure of any kind, simply an opportunity to see if we are a good fit to work together.
Let's Talk!
So that you can be the parent you really want to be.
Staying true to your own values, principles and priorities.
